Relationship Advice...

Okay, so I am going to help you to understand what TO do, what NOT to do, and when to throw in that towel, while pursuing a relationship.

Say you meet someone and the two of you hit it off really well, you go on that first date and you both actually end up enjoying it, so much so that you want to go home together...Wrong choice! You can not go home together the first night, are you serious. Do not confuse love with sexual attraction. Sex comes easily, doesn't it? Love takes time, right? Isn't that what grandma used to say? Well let me tell you a secret...Grandma was right! Love takes time, it takes two people working toward that lifetime ending...together. Love is not easy, it's work. But if you really want it, you can have it.

Love is not a fairy tale. People make mistakes, bad decisions, and need to be forgiven. No, I'm not saying that if you're cheated on to just stay with that person and allow them to think that cheating is okay, because it is not okay. It hurts to be cheated on. Just think about how you'd feel if you were that person with the broken heart in the end. What I am saying though, is that just because your boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife said something to hurt your feelings, does not mean it was meant to hurt you.

If they hit you, leave...get out of that relationship before it gets worse...Think of it this way, what if you allow him/her to hit on you, you stay with that person and eventually have kids with that person. Say he/she hits one of your kids the way they hit you...what would that do to your kid? First off, nobody realizes their own strength when they are angry, and if they leave bruises or skin tears on you, what would your kids end up looking like? I know it's not the best of subjects, but it needs to be faced. Get over your fear of that person before it gets that bad. And if you're already in a relationship like that, get out of it!

Okay, on a lighter part of this...Don't be clingy, everyone hates to feel like they don't know where they end and you begin, okay? Don't call every five minutes just to find out your significant others' every move. Jealousy is one of the world's most likely cause of relationship endings. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, you're handsome/beautiful in your own skin, get confidant in yourself.

Be there for your love interest...Be the shoulder to cry on, be the one to hold and be held, talk to that person and listen as well, take time out of your busy day to just say you care, don't be afraid to touch that person or to caress him/her, make eye contact, love on them, and just have fun with each other. Don't think too much about how to keep them, just relax...and let it happen, but most of all...have fun!

Hopefully this helps you understand a few things.

Until next time...